Wednesday, October 6, 2010

The move

So it has been a few weeks since I announced I was moving. Since then I have packed up my house on my own, because darling husband is being important Zimbabwe. I have to admit, that I was a little upset because packing is tough and really should be a joint venture. But, after all is said and done I remember that marriage is about ....... teamwork right. It is just hard getting to that frame of mind.

Anyway, so now my new project is buying furniture in one week to ship back home. I have picked put colors for most of my rooms and picked out the furniture and will post my inspirational pictures in my next post. But right now I need help picking out the color for my master bedroom. What I would like for my the room is for it to be romantic, cozy, and inviting. The colors I am thinking of are like a cinnamon color for the walls or brown and gold combination or something that will make me feel like oh I love going to bed and waking up. So if you have suggestions or pics that could help please post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Back to Zimbabwe it is

So it has been a while since my last post, but after my day at work I felt the need to vent. My husband and I decided it was time for us to move back to Zimbabwe. There are many factors we considered to reach this decision and at the end of the day we felt home was best. So yesterday was the day I handed in my resignation. MMMMMMMMMM I had several people pop by my desk and say oh we are going to miss you, oh we really like you here all the politically correct things to say. One or two did show up and feel the need to express how disgusted they were with my move or decision. One guy says to me you want to move your child back there really. And I wanted to ask what is your view of back "there"? What do you actually know about back there. Apart from going from Manhattan to Queens have you ever left the state of New York, let alone the country.

Today this old man says to me so when do you leave, and said to him with a smile in September. He proceeded to interrogate me as to why I would want to move back to such a country. He then decided to school me on how terrible Zimbabwe was. He asked what if something happened, what if your husband lost his job. And at the back of my mind I just thought we terrible things happen here as well. Every other week you hear on the news some guy decided to shoot someone. In the news you hear of how many people are losing their jobs. So my point is even in America bad things happen, but sometimes one has to ask the question do I want to have family around during those tough times or just go through challenging times alone.

America has been wonderful to me. I have obtained a wealth of knowledge from this great country, and yet I have never felt like I belonged. Yes America does not have power cuts, the economy for the most part is stable. You do not worry about obtaining certain basic products. But, even with all that it still has never felt like home. There is more to life than just being able to stroll into a dealership and buy a car you really can't afford. There is more to life than buying the latest pair of jeans. Like spending time with your family and sharing a laugh. More to life than worrying about how many days of paid time you have left. We spend so many years overseas, work long tiring hours and all for what. We miss out on moments with our families that we will never be able to obtain again. No my intention is not to be disrespectful of those of us who are still living in the diaspora. But my point is to say to each is own, if I have decided to to move back to Zimbabwe don't mock that decision but be happy for me because it is my decision. And for my American counterparts, just because you see something on the tv don't then think you are a world affairs guru. There is more world out there where people are living happy and fulfilling lives, even in Zimbabwe.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010


So, according to my last post this weekend was the clean-out weekend. However, I failed to fulfill my task. It is just so amazing how you never have enough time to complete anything, even when you have an extra day. So anyway maybe next weekend.

So, yesterday Lindsay Lohan was sentenced to 90 days people, 90 days in jail. She has been a girl behaving badly and it really was just a matter of time before her "luck" ran out. I suppose what makes me mad is the fact that these celebs get so many passes or special treatment as compared to us regular folk. There should be no discrimination when it comes to how the law is applied. At the end of the day I hope that Lindsay learns her lesson and will take the 90 days to reflect, do some soul searching and hopefully become a better person for herself. (I have no idea how to add a video, sorry guys)

Friday, July 2, 2010

World Cup - Go Africa

So the Brazil is headed home, and the Netherlands is in. I am shocked because everyone assumed that Brazil would do well this world cup. Brazil's departure has just made me believe that maybe, just maybe the "national" African team, Ghana might have a chance. I mean how precious would it be if an African team, was not only in the final, but possibly WON the world cup in Africa.

Sisi, was telling me of the twitter prayer warriors who were praying for Bafana Bafana, and recently for Ghana in their last game and I was a little iffy about that. Not because I do not believe in the power of prayer, I just have always thought performance should be based on talent. But, after watching the game with an ignorant workmate, I think I will call on all help, so we show the rest of the world that we are not only capable of hosting a world class tournament, but we are also talented. So today I say a prayer for our Ghanaian brothers and for those of you who are believers please take a moment to say a prayer for Ghana.

GO GO our African Warriors - GHANAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA, our thoughts and prayers are really with you we are so proud of you.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010


Over the past year I have managed to accumulate a lot of junk. Which is really terrible, because I hate clutter. I have developed this awful I don't care attitude. There are many reasons for my shift in my attitude, one being living with extended family, that does not share the same desire for order as you. And always telling people to please pick up after themself or coming home to a house that is in disarry, eventually you just say if you can't beat them join them. My sister came to visit over Christmas, and knowing my love for order, she said as only as sister can, "Sisi you have really let your home home go." And don't get me wrong my house is not dirty, but just a little disorganized.

So with that in mind I have decided that one of my summer projects is to clean out my house of all unecessary stuff, my first project will be cleaning out my closet. Now this is somewhat of a difficult task, because I love holding onto stuff for sentimental reasons. For instance Sisi put her sweat into making me lovely pants and top in her fashion and fabrics class. Now the top I have worn once, it was a little snug but it fit. However, the pants even at my smallest size, I would never manage to put them on. Then there is the shirt that daddy gave me when I was 16, which still fits because it was baggy, but I do not wear now because it is a little outdated. But, I hold onto it cause it is from daddy. Do I donate that or do I keep it? Oprah says that if you have not worn it in a year then get rid of it. But, then I say my closet would look empty. I don't know what I am going to do or what my cutoff policy will be. But, if anyone has any suggestions please share your wisdom.

So this weekend I will work on organizing my closet, I will post the before and after pictures hopefully there will be a noticeable difference.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Baby Girl and Mama's Summer!!!!

So Baby Girl turns the ONE next month, one people. Where has the time gone. In the past year, I have been amazed with her "evolution". I think back to when I found out I was pregnant and to the day she was born. Each one of those events changed me for the better. But, the greatest privilege though has been watching her grow into a cheerful and lovable little girl.

Though motherhood has been challenging at times from trying to juggle work, being a wife and spending enough time with Baby Girl. There are times when it would just be easier to come home and just plonk myself on the couch after work and watch show after show, and not even spend quality time with my daughter. But I have come to realize that in the hussle and bussle of life it is really important for me to make time for myself, for my husband and Baby Girl or life would just pass me by. So in the spirit of living a fully life I have decided that this summer would be filled with lots of activities. So here is Baby Girl and and my summer bucket list:

1. Take up swimming lessons

My hope is when we move back to Zimbabwe, Baby Girl will not be one of those kids who always has to swim in to shallow end because she cannot swim. Growing up it was so rare to find a black child who knew how to swim. Many of us used the oh my hair will get wet excuse, when really none of us knew how to swim.

2. Go to a petting zoo

Black Zimbabwean town children are taught from a very young age to FEAR animals. And I mean really fear, as in if your dog approaches me I will probably kick it. So when we went to visit my sister in law and her dog came racing my instinct was to pick Baby Girl up so that dog would not have any contact with Baby Girl. But much to my surprise, Baby got down and headed straight for the dog. Touching the the dog's nose, it's eyes and at one point laughing when the dog was licking her face. It was at that point that I realized it would be unfair for me to pass my fears onto my daughter, and hence we are headed to the petting zoo this summer.

3. Kids Science Museum

There is really no back story to this choice of activity. I would just like us to get into the routine of doing educational activities.

4. Go to the beach

I hate the sun and really would prefer to always walk under the shade. But the beach is such a wonderful family outing and would be a wonderful bonding experience for our little three man family.

5. Have a picnic in Central Park.

So this is still a work in progress, and as more things come to mind I will update the list. Also, if any of you have any suggestions of activities that you think would be fun, please let me know. And I will keep you posted on our summer adventures.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Now that I know better, I do better.

Hello folks, I just need to vent a bit. So darling husband started a business a few months ago and has been traveling like crazy. I really have been trying to be supportive, because I want him do what makes him happy. However, his being away so much is really tough. Not just because looking after the baby by myself is stressful, but also when I was growing up my father traveled a lot and I had hoped it would be different for my daughter. I suppose only time will tell.

In any event, winter is gone and summer is here. So tomorrow baby girl will be going for her first swim. I am so excited. Will let you know how things go.

Well friends have a wonderful weekend and those with good weather enjoy it.